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Thank you so much. I'll just share my screen here. Hopefully we've got that. Well, thank you, Kylie. It's great to be a part of anything that Rise does. Just thinking, a few years back, there was nothing going on in this space for people in the industry, for the heart and soul of the industry, there was really nothing happening. There were a few people looking after their teams and taking care of everyone, and everyone was sort of being human and helping each other. That's a given. But there was nothing sort of official in place that would really get across our community, across our industry and make such a big difference. That research we did at the start, which we sort of handball to the rise initiative, has been sort of taken and really welcomed as well, but utilised in practical applications. That rise has put into place the conferences, the app, the employment system, et cetera, through some great sponsors. So I'm chuffed just to still be involved in some way and get the opportunity on webinars like this to share my thoughts. But today we're going to talk about stuck to thriving. Now, Kylie, can you just check that that's working, that I've just changed?
You're good to go because I've done a presentation before where I've talked about the slides for about ten minutes and it's been on the first slide. So a little bit paranoid, but today's about stuck to thriving. When I look back at the last 13 years of my career as a mindset coach, a motivational mentor and an accountability, kick you up the bum and get you going type of person, everybody has come to me stuck and they might be stuck in, you know, their prospecting, they might be stuck in their business growth, they might be stuck in their mental game, they might be stuck in their relationships, they might be stuck in their finances, but it doesn't matter what it was. They're stuck. And I've had the privilege almost to be able to help people in every aspect of the industry. Successful business owners, successful PM, successful agents just starting off to move from stuck to thriving, to get out of where they don't want to be and to go where they do want to be.
And I'm going to be looking at three things that keep appearing over the last 13 years that I've applied to those to help those people. Some change their lives, but predominantly change their business, but definitely change their state and where they're sort of at. I don't know about you, but being stuck. Like, if you ever bogged a car and you try to get it out, but you can't get it out, it's that sort of overwhelming feeling of, oh, my God, there's no way out of this. And we all get stuck at various times. It's a part of life, unfortunately, but it is a part of life, but it's an unpleasant and uncomfortable place to be. When we're stuck, we're sort of. We can't see a way forward. We can't see possibility. We're not really optimistic and we can't see opportunity. When we're stuck, we get a bit sort of insular and we sort of turn in on ourselves and we become the worst critique of ourselves. And that stuckness sort of sometimes lasts for a couple of minutes and sometimes it lasts for days and for some people, unfortunately, could be weeks and for some years. But we can get stuck. It's part of life and we need to learn how to move through that sort of stuckness. And I'm going to show you that today with these three things.
If we're not stuck with sometimes surviving, you know, we're swimming about, we're doing all right, but then it gets a bit tough and the ways come over and we sort of. We sort of need a hand. We have to sort of reach out and try and, you know, get through whatever it is, the challenge that's sort of facing us. And when we're just surviving, we're sort of going through the motions. So we're turning up, but it gets a bit too hard. And, you know, we might quit, we might give up, we might stagnate, we might procrastinate, and we sort of start just surviving, just sort of going through the motions. It's sort of like we just got a hand out of the water. We're alive and we're good, but we're just letting everyone know we're okay, but we're not doing anything that we want to do that's great in our life that we want to really achieve. We're just sort of surviving and going through the motions. Always surviving and surviving is like being on a rollercoaster of emotion. It's up one day, it's down the next day. One day you're excited and everybody's fantastic and great, and the next day you're sort of depressed and upset, and you don't want to be around anybody. One month your sales are up, and you're a king of the queen of the world. And the next month you're down and you want to quit real estate and sort of give up. And you're always striving. You're always going, going, going, going. I'll get there. I'm nearly there. I've got it. Here it is. There. There, it's gone again. And you're thrown around these highs and lows and you're sort of striving, but you're sort of never arriving, as they say.
Well, we want to talk about sort of thriving and thriving. Sort of is the straight line to the goals. Thriving is sort of being at your best. More often than not. Thriving is, you know, it's that moment when you sort of cross that line and you really take control of your life and your business, and you really do some amazing and wonderful things, and you're not caught in the chaos of a to B. You sort of got a sort of straight line through. I look at thriving like this. Have you ever been to Japan on the bullet trains? I think the bullet trains are great metaphor for thriving. It's on time. It goes 600 km an hour. It gets the job done. There's no fuss, there's no bother. It's at its best pretty much all the time. And I think that's what thriving is. And that's not perfection. But we want to get pretty close to an extent. And when we're stuck and we can't see a way out, we need to move through to thriving, which is that on time, get it done, be the person that we were sort of born to be and know that we are.
There's a documentary called Swamp Kings on Netflix, and the star quarterback. There's a story about the Florida Gators. It's a college team, and they're pretty much useless. 15 or so years, nothing much was happening. And then coach got in there, and a quarterback got in there, and all of a sudden, they won two championships. They defied the odds. They did, you know, typical great american movie story. They defied the odds, and they won the championships, and, you know, they were the heroes. It's a great documentary. You don't have to like sport to like it. It's just a good hero's type of journey. It's very inspiring, very sort of motivating. Gets you in a good, fired up type of mood without being, you know, too blokey, if I can say that.
But Tim Tebow, the star quarterback, was asked, hey, what is it that's making this team so amazing? What is it that's making your team so great? Why can you go from 15 years in the wilderness to all of a sudden come out of nowhere and surprise everyone with two championships? What is it? And he looked down the barrel of the camera and he said, there's three things, three things and three things only. Attitude, focus, and effort. And he said, everything lives and dies on those three things. Attitude, focus, and effort. We measure our success on those three things. We measure how we're going as a team and individually on those three things, we measure everything. Everything that we want to happen on those three things.
Everything we do is built on attitude, focus, and effort.
And when I look back at my time, teaching people to be their best, those three things are paramount. How do we get our attitude right? How do we get our focus right? And certainly how do we get our effort right? And I sort of want you to think about it like this. Thriving is like a stool, and it's held up with three legs. And those three legs in this conversation that we're having today is attitudes one leg. Focus is another leg and effort is another leg. If you take one of those away, it's not going to stand up. If you take two legs away, it's not going to stand up on one leg. If you take all the way, it's not going to stand up at all. So I want you to keep thinking that thriving is a. A combination of those three things, attitude, focus and effort. And if you want to change anything in your life or business, it's those three legs on the stool that are going to make it change and give it that support that it needs.
Let's start with attitude. Outlook determines output. How you see things, determine how you're going to interact with these things, how you're going to experience these things, and what you're going to do about things in your world. Your outlook around setbacks and challenges and obstacles and difficulties and great times and successes and winning and being your best version and having a great life. The outlook about those things determines the output and determines where you go from that space into application. And that's what attitude really is. In a nutshell, it's about our outlook, how we see the world, our perception of what's going on. The sort of version I love to use is this one. Attitude is a feeling or opinion about something or someone or a way of behaving that is caused by this. So when I talk about attitude, or I teach about attitude, it's sort of three things, and I call it the fob. If you're taking notes, write that down, FDA, and I'll explain that in a minute. So attitudes become three things for me, and this is how I teach it with my clients. F is for feeling, always for opinion, and b is for a behavior. And so for me, your attitude is about the feeling you have of something, the opinion you have about that, and then the behaviour of that follows.
Think about it like this. Everyone's got a car. I'm assuming you need a fob to get in your car, come out late from the club a few times, you know, you've done these ones and trying to find your car or the shopping centre, you get lost, you don't know where you are. Your fob is coded to your car. It gives you access to get into your car and to drive away. I think attitudes, a little bit like the fob and the code that gives you the right attitude is the right feelings, the right opinion and the right behaviour markets a bit tight at the moment. That's the goss I'm getting from my clients around Australia. I don't know about you or what you're experiencing, but the market's a bit tight. And so agents in particular, and business owners have got particular feelings about that, and then they've got a particular opinion about it as well. And then they certainly have got a behaviour about it. They might be feeling that, ah, man, not again. We just had a great ride through, Covid. Geez, how, how long is this going to last for? And they might be feeling a bit apprehensive about it. And their opinion about it might be, this sucks. You know, this is just not needed right now. And then the behaviour, they might procrastinate. You sort of pick the picture up.
This is how you can check whether you got a good attitude or not, because some other agents and business owners are feeling, this is going to be great. There's going to be lots of opportunity. Yeah, markets type. There's going to be lots of opportunity. And their opinion about it is, you know, we're going to get out there while people are holding back and we're going to get a bit more of the market share. And their behaviour is proactive. They're getting the job done. They're doing something because those three things, feeling, opinion, and behaviour, are culminating together to give them a great attitude. Their fob is coded. Their attitude fob is coded. You can't be feeling crap. Have a great opinion and great behaviour. You can't have great behaviour and be feeling crap and have a good opinion. You need the three, you need those three legs on the stool.
As I said, when it comes to attitude as well, here's a fun fact. 85% of getting the job in an interview is about attitude. The other 15% is, do you understand the company? Are you good at what you do? How did you present? Well, et cetera. 85% of getting the job in the interview is attitude. That's a game changer, I think, particularly when it comes from going from stock to thriving, in particular. It's like your frequency. Have you got an old transistor radio and you're trying to find a frequency, or you're driving your car and you're pressing the buttons on the driving wheel to run through to the next station, and sometimes the station is not working. You've heard this before. What frequency are you at? What's the biggest challenge you're facing at the moment? Maybe there's a struggle. Maybe you're stuck. And what's your feelings about that? What's your opinion and what's your behaviour now? I don't want to be glib and say, look, just change your feelings, opinion, behaviour, and everything will be sweet. Probably not as simple as that or as easy as that, but it's a good start. It's definitely a good start, because the way through it is to go, hang on a second, identify how I'm feeling, what my opinion is, and what the behaviour is that follows, and then check myself, and then try and change the feeling, opinion, and behaviour. Try and go from that out of frequency dial into really clear, really crisp, really understanding what I need to do and where I need to go.
So I guess one of my first questions today is, what frequency are you, Athenae? What is that challenge we asked about before? How are you responding to it? How are you feeling about it? What is your opinion? What is your behaviour? Is your fob coded? Is it working for your attitude at the moment?
In 1941, the Japanese bombed Pearl harbour, absolutely decimated the place, and, you know, no war is good. You know what's happening at the moment over in Israel and Gaza, and that it can't be good, and it's not at the end of the day. But in 1941, Pearl harbor got bombed and basically levelled, and Admiral Charles Nimitz was charged with the job of doing something about it. And so, as the story goes, he was taken around Pearl harbour after it was a few days after it was done, and he was shown the destruction of what happened. And the reports were that Admiral Nimmukhs, every time he got to a place and was shown what had happened in the devastation, said things like, lucky they didn't bomb the walls. Lucky it was a weekend, and most of our personnel were off that weekend because a few thousand people died out of it, as well as the destruction. Lucky they didn't bomb up further where the fuel tanks were. And his language was consistently in the optimist vein. He wasn't a toxic optimist, going, well, we'll just get on with it, and we'll just sort this out. No, he was realistically making sure that he could see the good in what had just happened so that he could work a way out of that. And not only that, so that he could influence those around him and inspire them to rise up with him to do what they needed to do to win at that case.
And Colin Powell, General Colin Powell termed this phrase perpetual optimism, and Admiral Nimitz was doing exactly that, being perpetually optimistic. Even though there was devastation and destruction, he chose to, in that moment, go, okay, that's not ideal. That's not good, that's bad. In fact, however, this is what I see, and this is where we can go, and this is what we can do. And that influenced and inspired those around him to then win the last part of the war with less men than he started with, and obviously be the hero at that point in time. But optimism is not only about adjusting your feelings, your opinion and behaviour. It's also about having that perpetual optimism that sees the good in everything, that sees hope in everything. It sees possibility and everything. Yeah, it might be good at this time, it might not be ideal, but what are we going to do? We're going to stay stuck, we're going to move through to thrive. And the way we do that is through that perpetual optimism.
KPMG did a study on their tax managers. You can imagine that job for KPMG and being a tax manager or any accountancy type role, it's pretty stressful to say the least. But there was a study done on them by Shawn Achor, who wrote the happiness advantage, and it's in the harvest business review, if you're interested. Under positive influencer, I think it's called the article. And anyway, they got these tax managers to choose from five or six particular tasks to do every day. And these tasks were one of them. Washington, three things you're grateful for, or positive message to friends, or meditation each day, or exercise, or list your wins in the last 24 hours. So they got them to choose just one of these. Not all of them, just one. And then they had a control group who didn't do it and the group that did do it. And the results were astounding. These tax managers chose one of these things to do every day for, I think it was three or so months. And the changes to the productivity, to their attitudes, to their perception about things, to their belief, everything to their mindset, everything shifted in the affirmative, everything lifted, everything went up just by doing one of these things over a period of months.
Shawn Achor found in his book the Happiness Advantage, that if you do these five things for 21 days, you are changed forever. As far as your attitude and your happiness, that's a big statement. I know it's a sweeping generalist statement, and there are people down the end of the spectrum that potentially struggling today that this is not relevant for. But I'm talking about us in the middle and to the good end. That sort of can sort of apply this. So imagine doing these five things for 21 days. He said, your life is totally changed. And that was the study's results. And I've done this with groups as well. And it's really powerful.
got a hero. She's in real estate. She owns a business. And she was trying to, you know, get pregnant for a long, long, long time. And her and a partner, eventually they spent thousands on IVF and all that type of stuff. And eventually she got pregnant. And unfortunately, the baby's really, really small, and they had to bring the baby out just like as early as you can. I don't know what the weeks are, but as early, early as you can. And a couple of days before that had to happen, I was talking to her, and she's in good spirits in the hospital, looking forward to the little baby coming out and, you know, looking after it, nurturing it. And finally the opportunity had come, and unfortunately, she lost it. And that was a really sad, sad moment for her and her family and those that really love her and were around her. A few months later, after that sort of news and tragedy, she got diagnosed with breast cancer as well. And I share this story because this person is a hero of mine, because she had two decisions. She told me she could cry, give up, and walk away, or she could stand up, fight and push forward. And if anyone epitomises attitude, if anyone epitomises changing that feeling, opinion, and behaviour, if anyone epitomises perpetual optimism, if anyone epitomises, you know, putting it into place and living it, this is this person. And she did it through a choice. She just made a decision to do that, which is really inspiring at the same time as it is a challenge to us all as well.
I love what Viktor Frankl says to wrap this up around attitude. As you know, if you haven't read any of his stuff, man's search for meaning is probably one of the most amazing and life changing books I've ever read developed about a man in a Holocaust camp trying to survive himself, but then trying to understand what makes people give up and what makes people have hope. And he says, everything can be taken from a man. But one thing, the last of human freedoms, to choose one's attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one's own way.
So there's attitude. First leg on our stool. Let's go to focus. Focus is a lot of things. It's very interesting. I like what Richard St. John said when he brought out this book, eight traits of successful people have in common. He's got like 10 million views on YouTube, and he interviewed a thousand plus the best people like Branson and Obama. And he said the key sort of common denominator or ingredient for success of these people was their focus wasn't anything else. It was pretty much their focus. They had to have a lot of other characteristics and behaviours and talents, of course. But he said it was their focus that made it different. Gary Keller, who started Keller Williams, I think they got 200,000 associates in the states or globally. They might be, but he brought out a book, good book, good read. That's called the one thing, and it talks about focus. And I love this quote. Not all things matter equally. The reason why we're not focused is because all things matter equally. And it's pretty much impossible to do all things at the same rate or level of intensity that you want to do. So the first lesson around focus is all things don't matter equally. Find what's important and narrow down on that. I call it selfish attention. I sort of struggled with the word selfish, but I don't know if they're selfish in a good way. But that's what I mean. Selfish, good. Selfish attention.
I don't have ever been in love. I hope you have. If you haven't, I hope you will. It can be heartbreaking, but I mean, that love of when you're in primary school or maybe even kindergarten, maybe it's too young, you're in primary school or high school, that sort of love, you know, that really stupid, smitten, oh, my God. Love can't separate. I love you. You're riding hearts and trees and you're riding hearts on I love you hearts on your hand and you're writing on the bag. You're doing all that crazy sort of stuff. You, back in my sort of day, you're on a public phone and you're just holding onto the phone for hours and no one's saying anything. But that was enough because you're in love. You were smitten. You were absolutely obsessed with the other person. You ride around past their house and their window all the time for hours and hours and hours. You had a selfish attention. You sort of was zeroed in. There was nothing that was going to change the way you felt. Your hormones were going crazy, and you were committed and obsessively committed. And that's the sort of attention you need to have. High level focus. That's what the greats have, and that's what we need, you know, when we want to really push forward in any particular thing that we're trying to achieve.
This is an old lazy towel. I've been saying. Hope I got that pronunciation right. If you chase two rabbits, both will escape. When we sort of don't have that attention on what it is we're trying to catch. We generally miss out most of the time, or we maybe not miss out, but I don't think we're at our best from a performance point of view. It's like when a batter, baseball batter is facing a ball. These balls come at 100 to 150 km an hour. He's only thinking about one thing. He's thinking, where is that ball when it leaves the pitcher's hand to when it hits my bat? He's not moving his head, he's not thinking about the crowd, he's not looking up at the sky, he's not looking at the video, he's not looking at his teammates, he's not looking at. He's done all that he needs to do to get himself in the right headspace. But he's selfishly attentive just to one thing, and that is that ball. Because if he's not, it's not going to be pretty if it hits him, as they sometimes do. So selfish attention, I think, is really one of our priorities when it comes to better focus.
And when we have better focus, we are better people. You also with focus, need a focus routine. And a focus routine is exemplified by Rafael Nadal. If you're a tennis bath, or even if you're not, before he serves or before he returns, he goes through a process you probably noticed. They pull the undies out of his bum, he bungs his nose, he winks, he jigs, he fixes his hair hat, he taps his racket, he bounces the ball. There's a whole process that he goes through. What's happening in that process? What's happening is he's getting his brain to come into zero focus, down to selfish attention, so that he can return at the best possible way he can, or so he can serve at the best possible way he can. So he's worked out, how does he get himself back into the prime position to be at his best, to receive or to serve? And it's something that we can do too, because we know we're going to lose focus. Yeah, we know we're going to set up what's important and be really clear about the ball that's coming to the batter. But we know at some point, even if we do that, we're still going to lose a little bit of focus and get a bit off track and stray a little bit. And what happens is rather than sort of having a focus routine to get us back to start again, we get all dismal and all annoyed with ourselves. We start beating ourselves up and then we sort of lose a couple of hours and jobs, sort of not done.
Rather going into your situation at work or whatever the situation is, and going, hey, I'm gonna. I know what I'm focused on. I'm laser focused. I'm obsessively focused. I have this selfish intention. I'm in love with this knowing in maybe an hour, half an hour, 15 minutes, ten minutes, I'm gonna get distracted, I'm gonna walk away, and I'm gonna do something that's probably gonna take me away from this for the rest of the day rather than that happening. Understand you're going to get taken away, but when you get taken away, have a routine to get you back to starting it. I got a home office, travel a bit, but I got home office. I know when I get up in the middle of the day, I don't care how committed I am to my task list, I'm going to stray, I'm going to get distracted. I've got a toy caboodle, there's a pool outside, I got my little scooter. I can run, get a coffee. But I've learned to accept it. I can get obsessively focused. Then I get unfocused, and then I get into my focus routine. So I get up, I go make one of those herbal tea. I go make a herbal tea. I walk around, do a couple of laps, the house out to the yard, back again, freshen up, shake my head, and then I come back again and I start. That's my Rafa Admiral Dell focus routine. You need one of those.
The other thing about focus is, I think it has to have a purpose behind it. This is Jonathan Edwards. He's the english hop, skip and jump champion forevermore in a day, and an incredible athlete in a sport that you would think, hang on a second. One, how is that a sport? And two, how do you do that for so long? He committed his life to hop, skip and jump, hop, skip and jump as his sport of choice. And in 1988, he went to the Olympics and he came about, I think it was 25th, somewhere around there. In 1992, I think he was worse at the Olympics. He'd be thinking, I'm giving up by now. I'm not hopping and skipping and jumping any better. And then in 1996, he came second. In 1998, I think he won the world championships. And in the 2000 Olympics in Sydney, he won his first gold medal.
Now, my first question was, when I read about this guy, was, how the hell do you stay that focused and dedicate your whole life to hopping, skipping and jumping to win a gold medal. And I'm sure there are many reasons, but in the context of our conversation around folks today, here's my opinion. He had an overwhelming, overriding sense of purpose that drove his focus. And a lot of people come up to me and say, I'm not prospecting, I'm not spending money on my marketing. My business isn't growing because of this, I'm not growing because of that. I'm not doing it. And they go, help me, what do I do? I go quit. Quit. What's the point? You haven't done it now you're never going to do it. And I know that sounds harsh, and I'm being a bit jovial about it. It's probably not as black and white as that. But the point is, it's hard to stay focused when you don't have a purpose behind it. It's hard to stay focused 30 plus years of your life, hop, skipping and jumping when you don't have some sort of purpose behind it, when there's not a reason why you're doing what you're doing, even if it's dropping some direct mail in a letterbox, that can be mind numbingly disheartening, that can be soul destroying. If you're an agent watching this and you've been through that process, but for most of you that kept going and pushed through, probably thought of your future, probably thought of your kids, probably thought of the holiday you wanted to have, probably thought of the fact that you're going to achieve something, you're going to do something like you're going to make your parents proud. There was a. There was a reason behind it. There was something that drove that purpose behind it. And without the purpose, I don't think we can focus as efficiently.
Let's talk about effort. So effort is the best indicator of commitment. There's two types of effort. There's interested. I'm interested in doing something, and there's committed to sort of doing something. You know, I'm interested in climbing Mount Everest, but I'm not committed to it. That's another five years of my life. It's $100,000. It's like, no, but I'm interested in it. But if I only stay interested in it for the rest of my life, it'll never get done. I'm interested in maybe building my business and getting a few more clients, but I'm committed to doing that by reaching out to people, by running webinars by mailing people, by meeting people, by having copies. I'm committed. I'm doing something about it. And that's what effort's about. Effort's about the commitment, not the interest.
Nedd Brockman, crazy guy, you haven't sort of caught up with what he's done, ran across Australia, 4000 plus kilometres, fast as ever, person to do it. He says this, it wasn't about breaking records, it was about showing up and showing people they can do a lot more with their lives. Ned was committed. He wasn't interested. He's probably interested when he had a couple of drinks and said to his mate, I'm going to run across Australia, raise a couple hundred thousand dollars for the kids that are homeless. He's probably interested then. But then he went, no, I'm going to really do this and make it happen. And around halfway through, he got maggots in his toenails. That's how bad it was. If anything's not going to. If something's going to stop you from running across Australia, it's got to be maggots in your toenails. How horrible is that? But Ned was committed. He was all in. He was all in. And that's what effort is. You know, just a little bit, just five to 10% of more effort into what you do. And it might be mental energy, it might have to be more hours, it might be more leverage, it might be utilising people around you as well. It doesn't have to be just you driving yourself into the ground, which I don't recommend, but are you interested or committed? If you get more committed, I know things drastically change.
Let me finish on this. Diana Niad tried to swim from Cuba to Florida when she was about, I think about 28, and she failed. Decade or so later, she tried it again. I think it was three times, and she fell. One attempt which had nearly killed her. She got so badly stung by box jellyfish that it paralyzed her up to her neck and she nearly died. So you would think, okay, in my twenties, early, late thirties, I've had a crack at this. No one else has done it. I can't do it. Give it a miss. No. 64 years of age, she goes, well, 60, 60 years of age, she goes, I'm gonna have a crack at this. Everyone thought she was crazy because by the time she was going to do it, she'd be 64. So the prep started at about 60. So she trained, she got the best people in nutrition, the best navigators, because the swell can take you hundreds of kilometres off track. That shark infested Spock, jellyfish, infected, infested. So she had a mask made up to cover her face so she didn't get paralyzed again. She had guys in kayaks with shark repellent, electrical things under their kayaks to try and help, you know, keep the sharks away. She had a great motivational team, so she thought about everything, and she said, I'm going to do it. So she's standing on the beach in Cuba, ready to start, and a friend at the time, which I think was a life partner, said, what are you thinking? She looks across the ocean. She looks across at the biggest challenge that she'll ever, ever do in her life, ever. The thing that could kill her. It's so serious. She looks across at that ocean towards Florida, and she says, what am I thinking? Find a way. Find a way. That's what I'm thinking. And if effort is about anything, it's not necessarily about winning all the time. It's not. It's not necessarily about always getting there, but I think it is about finding a way.
And Diana Niad's a great example of that. And by the way, there's a doco on Netflix. You can see how much a lot of doc is. It's a great story of her journey. A bit sensationalised, but who doesn't like a bit of sensationalism with their Netflix? So, as we wrap up back to thriving, what are the three legs on the chair that hold thriving up, that allow us to do that in combination and alignment together? It's our attitude. It's understanding our feelings, opinions and behaviours. It's understanding that perpetual optimism. It's our focus. It's understanding. One of the main things is that we need a purpose that drives our focus. We need some routine to bring us back day to day. And we need to sort of get that selfish attention on, really, what are the priorities and what we really need to focus on. And we sort of wrap that up and putting the third leg in around effort and around being committed to something, whatever that is for you, and following it through, or as Diana says, finding a way.
I got a book that I brought out as part of the research that we did for wellness and well being in the industry. It's got twelve people in that book who have been stuck, or were stuck at some point in their life. Some were suicidal, some were going through a divorce, some businesses were falling apart, but they were all stuck. And the book highlights how they went from stuck to thriving, how they moved through those struggles and challenges and setbacks in their life. And business and how they. They pushed through, how they got those three legs of the stool together and working in a synergy so that they could come back from, you know, some pretty, pretty challenging places. And Beverly, their best versions. So championscry two.com dot au is the place. You can get that now. That's me officially finished. From my point of view, I don't know if there's some question time or how we run this. Kylie.
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